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12月14日 Disasters Come In ThreesSunday, December 07, 2008Disasters Come In Threes
How often have I heard that? A million times at least. Well, this week it’s true. I’ve had three disasters. Disaster No. 1: I turned the tap timer the wrong way and instead of turning the water off after an hour, it went all night almost flooding all my new vegetable seedlings out. Disaster No. 2: I was told of the death of an old school friend of mine. This makes me very sad. Even sadder because we’d lost touch with each other. I thought she lived in another town and I didn’t even know her married name. Turned out that she lived right here. That makes me sad because I missed the opportunity to catch up with her. And, yes, I am more than a little annoyed that the friend who told me she’d died knew exactly where she lived, used to visit her often, and knew I was wondering where and how she was all these years. I can’t understand why she never let on. Even crueler now that I can’t do anything about it. Disaster No. 3: I discovered that our freezer had been turned off some time ago and all the contents had gone rotten. I guess I’m lucky it wasn’t full to the brim with meat. Still, I lost all the frozen vegies I’d preserved, all the frozen meals I’d prepared, and, most irksome of all, our two Christmas turkeys. This is annoying because I can’t afford to go out and replace all that food. I’ll have to replace the turkeys. We need those. The frozen meals, sauces, vegies, etc. will have to be replaced one by one as I make, or preserve, them. Today I have to take a bin full of rotten meat to the tip. Ugh! I’m really looking forward to that experience! I’m sure I’ll be chased down the road by a huge black cloud of blowflies. Over all, it hasn’t been a good week for me. I’ve been in trouble, yelled at, belittled, made fun of, told how stupid I am… I guess you get the picture. I feel really bad about all three disasters and there isn’t a thing I can do about any of them to make it all “unhappen”. How did I react to these so-called disasters? How did it all unfold for me on a personal level? It’s all written right there for the world to see: “I turned”, “I was told”, “I discovered”, “I wondered”, “I can’t afford”, “I was blamed”, “I was sad”, “I was in trouble”. Yes, the dreaded wounded, wailing “I”, surfaced. Yes, it’s the “victim me” I was talking about in my last blog entry: Will The Real Me Stand Up? I’ve taken it upon myself to accept all responsibility; accept all blame. I’ve personalised and internalised. Now I must punish myself for my bad deeds. Once again, I’m transported back to my childhood. Mum is standing over me, large and threatening, her face twisted, her voice loud enough to hurt my ears. I cower, I crumble, I feel small, guilty, terrified, sorry, devastated, and helpless. I’ve had a life time of conditioning that’s hard to break. I’ve been conditioned to think that if something goes wrong I’ve been bad, or stupid, and now I must be punished until everyone around me feels vindicated and I am ground into the dust. Well… Stop it! Just stop it. The truth is, accidents happen. People die. That’s life. Yes, I turned the tap timer the wrong way. It’s an easy mistake. Do I have to suffer eternally for my sin? What was the real outcome of that? The seedlings loved the extra drink of water and are all standing up looking great. Yes, I wasted a lot of water that we really can’t afford, but the world didn’t stop turning and we all didn’t fall off. I’m not sure about how the freezer happened to be turned off at the power point. Did I do it? I can’t see why I would, but I could have. Anyone could have turned if off for any number of reasons then forgot to turn it back on. Everyone keeps telling me I was the one who did it, so I suppose I’ll just have to accept that. The outcome? We lost some food that we can’t afford to replace right now. However, we were lucky not to have lost an entire freezer full of expensive meat. I was in the process of letting it become empty so I could defrost it and give it a good clean. Well, it’s certainly defrosted now! And it’s outside airing having been sprayed thoroughly with disinfectant to get rid of the smell. It will certainly be crystal clean by the time we wheel it back inside. Everyone blaming me is hard to take. It was a genuine accident – like the tap timer incident. It happened. Did the world stop spinning? Not that I’ve noticed – but then again, I didn’t notice the power point was in the off position. I have no power over what other people think, say or do. I can only control how I react. People are being very nasty to me over this. I dare say, I won’t hear the end of it for quite a while. Don’t you love how people do that? How should I react? It hurts. Why does it hurt? Because I made a mistake and I can’t fix it. I want to fix it, but what’s done is done. I have to move on. I have to not let what others say grind me down into the dirt. I have to take my power back. Okay, a mistake was made. Yes, it was probably mine. And…? Get over it. Let’s not allow this to become a bigger issue than it really is. It is not of worldly importance. It’s not even a blip on the radar of my life. The death of my friend is hard. I feel a lot sadder than I expected. Sad for a lot of reasons, and not just because I’ve lost all possibility of getting together with her to reminisce about old times. How I feel about the loss is natural. It’s sorrow. I’ll cry a little because we drifted apart. I’ll cry a little because I won’t see her again in this life time. I’ll cry, then I’ll smile, then I’ll allow myself to laugh over all the silly, funny, things we used to do as teenagers. I’ll remember her and smile from that moment on. That’s grief. It’s natural. It’s nothing to be afraid of. I’m not going to wail and wallow in self-pity over this. I’m simply allowing myself to feel the full emotion of it all. I’m allowing myself to be sad, and then to heal slowly. We should never be afraid to allow ourselves to love, to lose, to grieve, to heal. How do I feel about the “friend” who prevented me from having a lasting adult friendship with my other friend? The talking marks around the word “friend” say it all. No, I’m not wasting time on anger and bitterness. I’m relegating a negative influence into the “casual acquaintance” bin. Yes, I did feel anger when I discovered that I was deliberately not told the whereabouts of my friend. I’m entitled to feel that. Anger is natural. I was hurt too. It hurt to think someone would prevent us from getting together for whatever reason. Her reason. Not mine. That’s not my journey. I walk a different path. I acknowledged the anger and hurt. I understood where they came from and why. They served their purpose in alerting me to an injustice, and now they’re gone. Injustice has also faded. If you come up against a minor injustice that does no more than give you a brief sting, feel it, acknowledge it, recognise it for what it is and where it sprang from, then let it fade away. The sun is shining outside today. It’s one of those perfect, cloudless, days you read about in books. I’m going to go outside with a cup of tea [that old gypsy remedy for everything] and let the sun dry my tears. Then I’ll get to work weeding my garden, cleaning the freezer, and then I’ll go join some friends of mine for a pre-Christmas get-together.
So… here’s to you, Mardi, my old friend. I remember you with love and laughter. You’ll be forever young in my mind.
Cheers
Brittany K. 6月3日 The Dreaded WhymeeesThe other day I caught myself out in a dreaded attack of the whymeees.
Negative emotions are our counter-weights. They are our early warning systems and our alert to the possibility that we may in fact be learning something.
None of us want that to happen, and yet, from time to time, we all do it. Congratulations everyone, we're human!
Cheers for now. 2月21日 How the Gypsy Spell of Unbinding WorksOn the weekend, at our SHIVA meeting, we all had great fun trying out the Gypsy Spell of Unbinding.
Some people asked me if we were actually casting a spell on someone else - as the purpose of the spell is to rid us of the negative influence of another person.
Here is how that spell really works.
Often other people say, do or think negative things about us and some actually physically go about their nasty ways to cause real grief or to discredit us.
This is, unfortunately, just human nature. Often people target us if we seem a little different, if we do a job a little better and make them feel threatened in some way, or maybe they just don't like us. Whatever the reason, there are times when we all feel the sting of somebody's ill will.
In casting the Spell of Unbinding - as instructed in the last newsletter and blog - we rid ourselves of this negative influence and negative energy.
What we are actually doing is casting a spell on ourselves.
In performing the ritual of the spell, we name the person or situation that is causing us so much grief and we "cancel it out" and "burn the negative influence away". That is to say: we cancel out it's ability to influence ourselves and we burn away all the negative energy surrounding ourselves.
In this way, we are really reprogramming ourselves not to allow ourselves to be influenced by that person or negativity any longer. We are making a conscious decision not to be bothered by them/it again.
The next time we come across that person and they start with their insults or negative talk, we remember that we've removed ourselves from harm from this person and thus, whatever they say or do hurts us no longer.
If it's our own negative thoughts we want to gain control over, then each time we start to think about ourselves in a negative way, we remember the spell and stop allowing ourselves to think that way.
At the end of each spell we always say: "And it harm none".
This is to ensure that if our thoughts are misdirected or distracted during the casting of the spell, then the spell simply won't work. It will harm nobody and change nothing.
Most of the Gypsy spells I know work in this way. It is about rethinking our situation and doing something positive to bring about change.
The ritual of the spell casts intention.
By consciously setting our intention to create a change in ourselves, we make that change happen.
OK. That's it from me for now.
Have fun with your positive thinking.
-- Griga Svetkavista-Parne
[Heather White Lightning] 2月13日 A Little Gypsy MagicThe Next Meeting of SHIVA Will take place on Saturday, February 17, 2007 from 1pm onwards at the home of Kaye Watt 53 Pearce Street, Wodonga, Vic. 3690
Anyone who is interested is welcome to join us for a casual afternoon tea and friendly gathering.
BYO nibbles, soft drinks & chairs. Tea & coffee provided. Please contact either Heather (03) 57222332 or Kaye (02) 60562186 for details and directions. Anyone in the Wangaratta area who would like a ride, contact Heather. Getting
Back to Basics
Many people think it has to be difficult to connect, or reconnect, with their spiritual selves when, in fact, nothing could be easier. There is a lot written these days about how to meditate, make the spiritual connection, how to be a tree, how to fly... Okay. So I’m joking. But seriously, it is so easy it’s almost funny. You don’t need books, special tools, bells, candles, etc. However, if you are not used to visualisation, some of those things can help you to focus your energy and concentration. For some people, setting the mood with incense, candles, oils, etc. is an important physical ritual that helps to put them in the right frame of mind to meditate.
A Quick Meditation
Take a moment. Sit yourself down somewhere outside. If that’s not available, find a nice place to sit by a window. Close your eyes and feel the elements – wind, sun, etc. If you’re inside, feel the heat or the breeze through the window. Whilst you don’t have to keep your eyes closed throughout this meditation, it does help if you are a beginner. Take a few really deep breaths. In through the nose, blow out through the mouth. Pucker your lips and blow as if you’re trying to whistle. With each in-breath, imagine pure, golden energy flowing in and filling your whole body. With each out-breath, imagine negative energy being blown out through your lips and turning into bright, sparkly positive energy as it floats away. Do this until you feel lighter, calmer and more in control. Let stray thoughts come and go. Don’t concentrate on any of them. Just let them flow through your mind and out again. Hold your arms straight at your sides. Straight but not rigid. Breathe in, and as you do, raise your arms slowly until your palms meet above your head. Breathe out, and as you do, keeping your palms pressed together, bend your elbows and bring your hands slowly down in front of your face as though you are praying. Breathe in and press your palms firmly together. Breathe out and slowly straighten and raise your arms until your palms are pressed together over your head once more. Breathe in and slowly lower your arms to your sides again. As you do, say out loud or think to yourself: “I open myself to the energy of the earth. Oh, ancient mother, fill my body and my spirit with your calming peace, love and energy.” Just sit for a few moments and feel the energy flowing into and through your body. Open your eyes. Say a sincere thank you for the gift of pure energy. Take a few more deep breaths and rise. You should feel refreshed, calm and ready to face whatever the day throws at you.
With practice, this meditation can be performed anywhere, anytime, to help you get rid of negative energy and re-focus your positive energy.
Making the Connection
To connect with your true spiritual self (ego), first perform the above meditation. After asking the ancient earth to fill you with her loving energy, keep your eyes closed. Concentrate on the energy flowing around you, through you, generated by you. Visualise yourself sitting opposite yourself in pure, shimmering, energetic form. Don’t be frustrated if you can’t do this at first. Keep trying. Concentrate on watching your energy ebb and flow. If you can’t see it, feel it. Get to know how you look in this form. Learn how your energy feels. Don’t worry if you can’t see any colours. Some people can, some can’t. Some learn to see the colours with practice. Concentrate on getting to know yourself as you truly are. Love what you see. You are a being of energy and power, of great beauty, capable of many wonderful things, with an infinite capacity to love. Love yourself as you are. See the dark energy as well as the light energy. See how the negative is interwoven with the positive energy. Know yourself in all your glory – both positive and negative. Accept the truth of what you are. See all that you are. Love what you see. Now watch as your energy extends in ribbons of colour and light. See how each ribbon of energy is connected to mother earth, the sea, your own kind, the animal kingdom, the plant kingdom, the universe and beyond. Know that you are a part of all that lives. Feel your connection with all. Take a few moments to enjoy your true self. When ready, give thanks for all that you are and for being a part of all there is. Take a few deep breaths and come back into your physical awareness. Give sincere thanks for yourself and all that is. Open your eyes and feel refreshed, renewed, calm and energised.
Time to rid yourself of those who cause you grief
The moon is now in its waning phase and this is an excellent time to rid yourself of the negative influences of anyone who is trying to cause you grief either psychically or psychologically.
A Gypsy Spell of Unbinding
Take a thick piece of paper. Black is best, but white will do. Think of the person you’d like to not have the power to upset you any more. Write that person’s name in black in the centre of that piece of paper. Fold the paper in half right across that person’s name. Continue to fold the paper in half, half again, half again until you can fold it no more. While you are folding say this: “Person’s Name, I break the hold you have over me. I cancel out your negative thoughts and words and deeds. From this day forth, you can do me no harm. From this day forth, I will no longer be affected by you.” Place the folded paper in a clean ashtray or bowl it’s safe to burn it in. Set fire to the paper. While you watch it burn, say this: “Person’s Name, your power is burning away. You hold no power over me. Your negative thoughts, words and deeds hold no power over me. Your negative intentions hold no power over me. From this day forth, you can do me no harm. From this day forth, I will no longer be affected by you.” When there is only ash left say this: “Person’s name, your power to hurt me is gone. You can hurt me no more. I am free of your negative influence. And it harm none, so mote it be.”
It is most important to add at the end: “And it harm none” as the Romani believe that if you cast a spell or think a damaging thought against anyone it will rebound upon you threefold. So the words: and it harm none, are always said – the reasoning behind it being that if your spell goes wrong or does no good, it will do nobody harm. “So mote it be” is an ancient ending to any spell or spoken intention literally meaning – and so be it – let the deed be done.
There are two schools of thought regarding what to do with the ash.
Grind the ash (char) to a fine powder and keep it in a small container or black silk scarf (diklo) so it can be used as a positive aid in other spells.
Keep the char until the first night of the full moon then cast it to the four winds, thus dissipating any negative energy.
That’s all from me for now. Give those meditations a try and see what happens. I’ll see you in peace, love and harmony – as always. |
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